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When your daughter was upset, how did you respond?

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In the past,

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I might have argued back:

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“I am your mother.

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You should respect me.”

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A little while ago, my daughter and I disagreed.

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I had promised her something,

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but I did not follow through.

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I handled it my own way instead.

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My daughter was upset.

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She sent me a message:

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“Why do you keep changing what we agreed?

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You have left me waiting here.”

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I got upset too.

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When I saw the message,

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I thought, “It is such a small thing.

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Does it need to become a big issue?”

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But then I paused and grew quiet.

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I looked inward.

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Why was my daughter feeling this way?

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What was she trying to say?

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Her need was to be seen

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and respected.

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I had not done what I promised.

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So I had not shown her respect.

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I sent her a message.

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I said, “I am sorry.

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I made you feel disrespected.

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That was my mistake.”

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After that, her tone softened.

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She trusted me more, too.

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I said, “I did not look at this

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from your point of view.

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I overlooked that.

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I will be more mindful next time.

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Mum loves you.”