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女儿生气的时候，你是怎么回应她的？

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如果换在以前

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我可能会跟她干起来

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我是你妈

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你应该尊重我

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前段时间我跟女儿有一点小小的冲突

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因为我答应她一件事情

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我后来没有做到

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我就要按我自己的方式就处理了

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结果我女儿就很生气

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她就给我发微信

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她说说好的事为什么变来变去

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你让我一直在这边等

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我当时就是也来情绪了

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看到这个微信

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我说这么小的事

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有必要上纲上线吗

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但是突然之间我就沉静下来

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我就向内觉察

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女儿为什么会有这个情绪

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她要表达什么

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其实她的需求就是我要被看见

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我要被尊重

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而我答应她的事没有做到

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所以我是没有尊重她

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然后我就跟女儿发了条微信

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我说女儿对不起

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我说是让你感觉到你不被尊重

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我说是妈妈的错

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后来女儿语气也好了很多

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然后女儿也对我更加的信任了

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我说我没有站在你的角度

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来考虑这个问题

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是我的疏忽

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我说我以后会注意的

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妈妈爱你